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Pre-Marital Counseling

Everyone at Quest who would like one of the pastors to officiate their wedding MUST complete the premarital classes.

Required reading:

Saving Your Marriage Before It Starts by Dr. Les and Leslie Parrot. [will be provided on first day of class]

Other good reads:

  • The Family | Balswick & Balswick
  • Getting Your Sex Life Off to a Great Start | Penner and Penner
  • The Gift of Sex |Penner & Penner
  • Why Marriages Succeed or Fail | John Gottman
  • Getting the Love you Want | Harville Hendriks
  • Mystery of Marriage | M. Mason.
  • Intimate Allies | Dan Allender & Tremper Longman III

MARRIAGE is a calling. It's a sacred invitation. We believe marriage is more than a romance between a man and a woman. It requires an intentional decision to invite Christ into your union and a willingness to equip yourselves with 'tools' that will help you build a healthy and vibrant marriage. 

We are committed to coming alongside couples in this journey of joining together in the union of marriage.  It is easy in the excitement of engagement and wedding planning to lose sight of the larger vision of marriage and life together as a family.  Our hope is to provide tools and a space to wrestle with the larger implications of marriage and to encourage a bigger picture lens into the dreams and visions couples have for their lives together.  

SESSION 1: Instructor Pastor DeAnza Spaulding Introductions, Expectations, Theology of Family, Communication, Reflective listening, Family history, Family of Origin, Cultural backgrounds, Family systems and Love Languages.

SESSION 2: Faith & Economics Financial Planning for the future, Larger implications of Stewardship, Financial Ideologies and backgrounds and Examining how our Faith should inform our committment to wise stewardship.

SESSION 3:Instructors Peter Lim & Karen Quek Myers-Briggs Assessment, Communication styles and Personality styles.

SESSION 4: Instructor Pastor Eugene Cho Areas of tension and boundaries in marriage.  The creation of the human soul.  Intentional and holistic marriage.

Next Session Dates and Times:

Session 1- May 9, 2009             9:00a-2:00p

Session 2- May 16, 2009           9:00a-2:00p

Session 3- May 23, 2009           9:00a-2:00p

Session 4- May 30, 2009           9:00a-2:00p

Session Fee- $100 per couple (scholarships available if needed.  please inquire @ time of registration)

Register with: office@seattlequest.org

Instructors:

Peter Lim & Karen Quek are regular attenders of Quest Church.  Peter is the Coordinator for Global Involvement for the John Perkins Center at SPU.  Karen is a Professor and Therapist of the Marriage and Family Therapy program at SPU.  They work together to provide support and encouragement to couples by giving them insight and tools into the dynamics of marriage and by sharing their personal journey as a married couple.

Pastor Eugene Cho is the lead pastor of Quest Church. He and his wife, Minhee, enjoy life with their three kids.

Pastor DeAnza Spaulding is the compassion & justice pastor at Quest. She has her counseling degree from Mars Hill Seminary. She lives in Ballard with her husband, Frank and their two daughters.